The Confidence Comeback: How to Bounce Back After Feeling Knocked Down
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Welcome back my darlings,
Let me start by saying this: you’re not alone.
We’ve all had those moments - whether it’s a failed project, a harsh comment, or just feeling like life is one big uphill battle - when our confidence takes a massive hit. Maybe you’re in that place right now, and if you are, I want you to know it’s okay to feel this way.
But here’s the thing: your confidence isn’t gone forever. It’s just taken a bit of a knock, and like any bruise, it can heal. You don’t have to rush it or force it. Let’s take this one gentle step at a time, together.
Let Yourself Feel What You’re Feeling
First, there’s no need to pressure yourself to "bounce back" immediately. You’re not a machine, and pretending everything’s fine doesn’t make it so. Take some time to sit with what you’re feeling—whether that’s hurt, frustration, disappointment, or even anger.
Feeling knocked down doesn’t mean you’re weak. It simply means you’re human. Give yourself the space to feel these emotions without judgement. Whether you write them down, talk to someone you trust, or just let them out in your own way, it’s all part of the healing process.
This Is Just a Chapter, Not the Whole Book
When something shakes our confidence, it’s so easy to let it consume us. A bad moment can feel like a bad life. But I want you to remember: this doesn’t define you.
Think back to times when you faced challenges before and overcame them. You didn’t let those moments define your story, and you won’t let this one, either. This is just one chapter in your book, and the next chapter? That’s yours to write.
Take One Tiny Step Forward
When your confidence is low, even small tasks can feel overwhelming. That’s okay. The key to rebuilding confidence is through action—small, manageable action.
Ask yourself:
- What’s one thing I can do right now to feel just a tiny bit better?
Maybe it’s putting on your favourite outfit.
Maybe it’s sending that email you’ve been avoiding.
Maybe it’s simply getting out of bed and making a cup of tea.
Each small win matters, and as you start stacking them, your confidence will grow, too.
Speak to Yourself Like a Friend
When we feel knocked down, our inner critic tends to get louder. You might be hearing thoughts like, “Why did I mess up?” or “Why am I not good enough?” But think about it: you’d never speak to a friend like that, so why is it okay to speak to yourself that way?
The next time those harsh thoughts creep in, pause. Imagine you’re comforting someone you care about. What would you say to them? Now, say those same kind words to yourself.
Find the Right People to Support You
Sometimes, confidence wavers because of the people or environments we’re surrounded by. If certain spaces or relationships make you feel smaller, it’s perfectly okay to take a step back.
Instead, lean into the people and places that lift you up. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or even a book or podcast that inspires you, surround yourself with the voices that remind you of your worth.
Celebrate Every Step, No Matter How Small
Rebuilding confidence isn’t about waking up one morning and suddenly feeling unstoppable. It’s about recognising and celebrating the little victories. Those moments when you choose to try again, even if you’re unsure.
Write down your small wins. Reflect on them. Remind yourself how far you’ve come, even if it doesn’t feel “far enough” yet. Progress is still progress.
You Are Worthy, Just as You Are
Here’s something I want you to hold onto: your worth isn’t tied to your achievements or mistakes. It’s not tied to how confident you feel today, tomorrow, or next week. You are worthy simply because you are you.
Confidence comes and goes—it’s part of being human. But what doesn’t change is your value. Every step you take, no matter how small, is proof of your strength and resilience.
So, take a deep breath. You’ve got this. One small step, one kind word to yourself at a time. You’re already on your way.
Mindfully yours,
Jade - EmpowHer Box xo.